Did you know I have always had a fear of rejection?
Yup, it’s one of my biggies and over the years I have done lots of work on my beliefs to overcome it and feel better about myself.
For me, it always came up when other people would take actions which were not the actions that I thought they would take or that I wanted them to take. For example, if someone said they were going to call me back at a specific time, and they never got back to me, my mind would immediately tell myself the story that I was being rejected.
I have dug deep to understand where this feeling of rejection comes from. It started 9 years ago when my then husband told me he was having an affair and left me and our marriage for the other woman. I was heartbroken and felt massively rejected and my confidence took a big knock.
Over the years my mind started seeing everything through this lens of rejection, it was nuts. I felt highly sensitive and took things so personally. It affected how I felt about myself and my relationships because I would see everything through this lens.
That event in 2009 started me on a journey that shaped the rest of my life. I decided back then that I didn’t want anyone to feel how I felt In those years so I started working on my limiting beliefs and re-framing them to something more positive. I would start asking myself what could this mean instead, rather than jumping straight into feeling they were rejecting me.
I have replaced the negative thoughts and feelings with a new mantra. One of my coaches once said this to me and I live my life by it now. I love it! Rejection is a detour in the right direction. Isn’t that a beautiful re-frame, doesn’t it give you a feeling of relief when you say it? I know it does for me.
So as we start this new year, ask yourself what story, pattern or belief do you feel as though you are constantly repeating to yourself?
Where you think it comes from? It doesn’t have to have any hold on you today. Release it!
What is it costing you on a daily basis? How is it keeping you from living the life you want to live and what will happen if you do not release it in 2018?
Once you have done that create an opposite belief to your limiting one, like I did by declaring that rejection is a detour in the right direction. Write it out and keep it where you can see it. When you catch yourself falling back into your old habit, use your new positive mantra.
I am so passionate about helping woman change the stories in their heads so that they can step up and stand out in their careers and lives in order to have the impact they know they are born for.
If you’re ready to kick your limiting beliefs to the curb then I would love to help you do that amongst other things. My one to one coaching programme has helped numerous woman find the confidence in themselves to go after what they desire.
What is it costing you to not go after your dreams and goals? what is it costing you not believing in yourself? you have the ability to change your life.
THE ANSWERS ARE INSIDE OF YOU, YOU JUST HAVE TO HAVE THE COURAGE TO LISTEN