Is rejection something that you suffer from? I know I do, its one of the things that stops me cold. Whether I am feeling rejected in my personal life or in a work and career situation, I become really fearful and anxious and lose confidence.
Over years and years of personal development and talking with clients who have the same or similar stories (trust me ladies alot of us feel the same things, we are not so different from one another) I have put alot of time and effort into understanding my story of rejection.
I know that alot of the hangups I have on this are to do with my failed marriage and subsequent divorce and later having a six year relationship end. Both times I was the one broken up with. I realised the story that I had been repeating to myself was I am not loved, they rejected.
Its all about what I MADE IT MEAN IN MY HEAD. It doesn’t mean that it is true, its my version or perception of a situation in my head.
Someone can still love me and reject me at the same time because its not about me.
A lovely friend sent me an article and in it was this powerful question
What’s a rejection you got that ended up being for the best in the long run?
When I read that I was like every rejection I’ve ever had, be it in my personal life or career has been the best in the long run because it has got me to where I am now career wise and in the best relationship of my life. I wouldn’t change anything at all in hindsight and because of that I can’t be scared of any future rejections because actually they bring something better.
So lovely, what have you made your rejections mean? How would looking at rejection in a new way feel for you?
PS: you can find the article that inspired my ramblings today 🙂 here