The period of completion, rather than being just an act of finality, is also one of transition.
Life is a collage of beginnings and endings that run together like still-wet paint
I came across these words not too long ago and it really made me stop and think. It is a very different way to look at it and for me it is quite comforting.
I am currently going through a completion stage in my life and for a lot of the beginning half of this year I resisted it. I thought by burying my head in the sand it would go away and life would go back to normal.
Unfortunately it doesn’t work that way and slowly but surely I started looking at my completion as a transition instead.
It mean that I had to grieve the expectation I had of how my life would turn out. I was very much caught up in the idea of what could be rather than looking at what was, in my current moment.
So often we live in the future and make decisions from that place. There is nothing wrong with that as long as you remember to come back to the present and enjoy life right now. Because lovely, this is where you are.
This day is all we have!!
We can plan for our future and try to control the outcome but life is ever changing and so I have learned that we need to build flexibility into our lives so when the unexpected happens, it doesn’t bury us.
Before we can begin any new phase in life, we must sometimes first achieve completion to the current stage we are in. Many of life’s experiences call for completion or closure. Often, we cannot see the significance of an event or importance of a lesson until we have reached the completion stage; and then it all becomes much clearer and we wonder why we hadn’t seen it before.
This sense of completion frees us to open the door to new beginnings and this is when we start to plan again, feel excited once more, know that we will be okay again.
When we seek completion, what we really are looking for is an understanding of what has happened and to derive what lessons we can from the experience.
Without completion, there is no resolution and we are left to grieve, relive old memories to the point of frustration, or remain forever connected to people from our past.
A sense of completion may also result when we accept that we have done our best.
Completion can help you let go of feelings of anger or uncertainty regarding your past even as you honor your experience – whether good or bad – as a necessary step on your life’s path. It allows you to emotionally lay to rest issues and feelings that may be weighing down your spirit. When you create closure, you affirm that you have done what was needed, are wiser because of your experience, and are ready for whatever life wants to bring you next.
What do you need to bring to completion in your life so that you can move forward to the next phase and a new beginning?
What can you do to bring about completion on the thing that is keeping you stuck?
I found the best way to do this is to write a forgiveness letter to whatever or whomever has hurt me, in my case it was myself and my ex.
It was such a freeing experience as I acknowledged the pain and the joy, the good and the bad and thanked myself, him and the situation for the lessons. I forgave all the hurts and I acknowledged the love in our relationship.
I wanted to share my personal experience with you because if it can help just one other person then it will have been worth it.
Know that you are not alone and truly ask for help when you need it!!