I wanted to share an excerpt from my “Brilliant Confidence” online course as I love this particular tool, it works so well and I have seen people having great success with it One of the first steps to having brilliant confidence is knowing yourself. We have to start there to build your confidence.
Confidence is not something you have or don’t have; it’s something that you do or don’t do.
Realize that it’s not outside, it’s inside.
Confidence is an emotional state. It is something that we feel sometimes and don’t feel at other times.
Confidence is a FEELING we get as a RESULT of what we THINK, DO and SAY.
Therefore, the great news is we can get into this state if we know what influences it.
EVERYONE IS CONFIDENT IN SOME AREA OF LIFE.
The secret is to know what your confidence looks, sounds and feels like and then replicate it in areas where you don’t do confidence as easily.
Finding your state of confidence technique
- Think back to a time when you felt at your most confidence best.
- Recall it as if you were there again now.
- See what you saw at that time, notice what is happening around you. It is important to be in the memory rather than watching it from outside.
- Keep focusing on the memory and notice the kind of things you were THINKING, if you were SPEAKING remember the words that you were using and how you were saying them.
- Now as you remember this time from the past when you were at your most confidence best, focus on how you were standing or moving and, how you were feeling. Notice where the confident feelings were in your body and how those feelings moved.
- Now notice that, even though you were just accessing a memory, you are feeling some of that feeling right now.
This is a taste of your confidence.
This is because the brain cannot differentiate between what is real and what is strongly imagined.
This means a consequence is that when we imagine ourselves as confident the brain releases the same chemicals around the body as when we really do feel confident.
So practice this technique and use it to come up with a few different examples so you have a toolkit you can draw from when you need to.
It’s especially useful when you need to prepare for something you don’t feel as confident in, i.e. an interview, a presentation, a hot new date.
I’d love to hear back from you on how you get on with this nifty tool.