Last weekend I was in Buckinghamshire on a neuroscience in coaching day so I could learn all the latest research in this particular area and learn some new techniques to help my clients.
I have always been fascinated by how the brain works and why and how we do the things we do. One of the things I was reminded of as we went through the day were 4 key principles of NLP or Neuro Linguistic Programming which gives us greater control over our ability to be at our best more often.
Who doesn’t want that right?
So here they are
1. Know what you want
In NLP we believe that the more precisely and positively you can define what you want, the more likely you are to achieve it. In every interaction, action or thought, you should know what you want to achieve as your outcome, this will create a more empowering outcome for you.
2. Be aware and alert
Any living creature does not simply communicate with language. Just like animals and plants, humans communicate non-verbally too! Sensory acuity (seeing, hearing, feeling – physically and emotionally) is critical to NLP and a great life-skill to have in general. Are you consciously aware of what is going on around you or inside of you? Are you listening to your own internal signals as to what you really want to do or are you doing what you think others expect or demand of you? Are you responding to the opportunities that are there – if you just take a moment to choose to see, hear, feel or experience a greater awareness of non-verbal communication you can respond to opportunities that could otherwise go un-noticed.
3. Have sufficient flexibility to change your behavior
Rapport skills enable you to quickly put others at easy and create trust. Mastery of rapport skills allows you to get on with anyone anywhere, greatly increases your confidence and effectiveness and makes it easier for others to communicate with you.
4. Adopting a physiology of excellence and take action
Our thoughts affect our feelings and our feelings affect our physiology, which in turn affects our behavior or the actions we take. Therefore, checking that your physiology, or body language, is supporting your desired outcome is vital. We know that during communication, body language accounts for the largest proportion of the overall message – communication isn’t just between two people it’s also within a person. What physiology do you associate with when you want to operate at your most confident, resourceful and productive?
These are some of the areas that I help my clients with and it’s amazing what change will come about by just working on one of these areas.
So, lovely lady which of these four areas could do with some improvement in your life? I would love to know which you need help on so I can do some Facebook lives around these topics in my Facebook group and provide some clarity around which steps you can take to be at your best more often.
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